What was the first meet you attended?

I spent most of 2016 as a lonelita. I did go to the Nakakon Tea Party and Paradiso that year, so I guess those count as meetups, but I wasn't part of the comm itself yet (I just tried to go to the Nakakon Tea every year I could, and that is how I found out about Paradiso). The first non-major-event was Winter ILD in 2016. Later in 2016, I went to the KC Japan Festival and other lolitas stumbled upon me and invited me to their comm, and the first meet I went to was ILD, which was held in a little bakery in Parkville, MO.

Do you prefer a large comm or a smaller, more tight knit comm?

I'd prefer a smaller, more tight knit comm, or even just a group of lolita friends within a larger comm.

Do you participate in lolita communities in languages other than your native one?

I only understand English, so no. The furthest out I get is there is a Japanese lolita I follow on Twitter who is a fan of Angelic Pretty, but the most I interact is liking her tweets. I love hearing about comms in other countries though.

How has your comm changed since you've joined the fashion?

I am not sure, since I have been in a comm since 2016, but I have moved a lot also, so I have been in 3 different comms in this time.

What is your go-to meetup spot?

For going out with my lolita friends, it is a cute tea shop a few towns from me. It has a really nice little tea service and the staff are really great.

What is your dream meetup?

Going to a lolita store in person with a friend or two, being able to actually buy stuff on a whim (rather than planning and planning the way I do now) (maybe even buying the same thing with a friend so we can match), and then going to tea to talk about the cute stuff we bought and plans for it. I think my ideas are fairly simple.

What's the farthest you've traveled for a meetup?

Flying back to Kansas City for Paradiso in 2019 counts (even if this is a large event).

What's a meetup you got planned for when gatherings are safe?

I want to go get tea with my friends again. I also hope that Paradiso will continue on as planned, and that the Royal Vegas Retreat event goes on as planned as well.

What's the weirdest thing that happened at a meetup?

I went to a picnic meet last year and a few of us had parasols sitting open. The wind almost blew them away. There was also a goose that kept distracting me and my friend.

What's the weirdest or funniest concrit you have gotten?

Honestly, I think all the concrit I have received has been pretty good. Back in my "cat ears are dumb!!!1" days, someone suggested a cat ear headband (they didn't know I hated cat ears at the time), which I thanked them for and then mentally thought they were silly. Looking back, they were right and I should buy a nice one. (ノ≧∇≦)ノ ミ ┸━┸

What is the best concrit you have received?

Match sleeve length with legwear style and length! I still get stuck on this sometimes. But if I wear sheer-ish blouse, I should go with sheer-ish legwear as well.

.✫*゚・゚。.☆.*。・゚✫*.✫*゚・゚。.☆.*。・゚✫*.Random Encounters.✫*゚・゚。.☆.*。・゚✫*..✫*゚・゚。.☆.*。*.

What is your favorite response to randoms asking why you are dressed up?

"Because I felt like it". This is the most honest response I have. Usually when I get asked this, it is when I am out and about by myself. If I am with a group of people, I let other people answer.

What's your favorite compliment from a stranger?

Little kids asking their parents if I am a princess is the best feeling.

What has been the strangest reaction from a member of the public?

There was a meet at the zoo once where somehow no one else showed up, so I went by myself. At one point I was stopped by a woman who was trying really hard to ask if I was Alice in Wonderland (since that happens a lot to lolitas in the wild), so I offered that suggestion to her. Instead, she corrected me and asked if I was Little Bo Peep.

How do you deal with strangers that make you uncomfortable?

Fortunately, no one has made me too uncomfortable before. There was a meet once where there was an old guy who was heading directly for a brolita in our group so I tried to intercept the old guy so he wouldn't bother him.

Do you allow strangers to take pictures of you?

If they ask, I tell them "no thank you". But if someone takes sneak shots, I don't really know what to do other than just give them a dirty look. If I was quicker on my feet, I'd take pictures of them. There have been times where I tried to block them with a parasol. I don't like it when people get really loud and aggressive towards the sneaky photographers. There was once when a group of us were asked for photos with someone's child, and I was too awkward to escape. What do random people even do with these pictures...actually, I don't want to know.

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